Your Emotions and Feelings Matter During a Divorce | LEAP Podcast

by | Aug 15, 2022 | Podcast

That guitar riff is something new, and I thought it would be a good idea to give you a glimpse of who I am as a person and how I use the emotions and feelings I feel when playing music and apply them to my cases.

I am a creative person at heart and have played guitar player for over 40 years. I was in a rock band in San Francisco, wrote and performed original music, and even had songs on the radio. As a lawyer, that is a testament to how I practice law. The guitar is about emotions and feelings. I had to dig deep inside to feel those emotions while performing and writing music. I’ve now had to do the same as a lawyer.

We are emotional beings well before logic and make decisions based on those emotions. My client’s feelings are central to my reason for being a lawyer. Unfortunately, many divorce lawyers only want to focus on facts and what law applies. They don’t want to go beyond that, and they don’t believe that’s their role. They want to apply the law and come to a conclusion.

Fortunately, I’m different. Feelings and emotions matter to me. I will pay attention to those things. I will use emotions and feelings to tell your story. Who doesn’t love a good story? If I tell a story only based on facts, where is the draw in that? I have to bring in emotions and feelings.

That’s the type of lawyer I am. My client’s feelings and emotions are vital, and I use them to persuade the judge to see your side of things.

Show Transcript

Welcome, welcome. Welcome, everybody. Thank you for joining me today. I’m A.J. Grossman, divorce lawyer and certified mediator with Leap Frog Divorce.

You know, that guitar riff that I just played, it’s a new thing for me with these videos, and I thought it would be a really good idea to just give you a glimpse into who I am as a person and how that impacts me and how I practice law. So I’m a creative person at heart. I’ve been a guitar player for well over 40 years, I played in a rock band in San Francisco, California, in the 80s. And we wrote and performed all original music, had one or two songs on the radio, won some Battle of the Bands competitions, and guitar playing and creativity have always been at the heart of what I do.

And as a lawyer, that really informs how I practice law. So guitar playing for me was all about the emotion, the feelings. I had to dig deep inside to feel those emotions when I was performing, when I was writing music. And I do the same thing as a lawyer.

You know, all of us are emotional beings, first and foremost. Well, before logic. We make decisions based upon feelings and emotions. And so, the feelings and emotions of my clients are critical to me. That’s what matters. It’s your story. It’s the feelings and emotions that go along with your story, which goes way beyond just the facts and the law that’s applied to your situation.

And I’ll be honest with you, unfortunately, many of my fellow divorce lawyers really only want to focus on what the facts of your situation is, or are, and what law applies. And they don’t want to go beyond that. They don’t believe that that’s their role. Their role is to gather the relevant facts from you and apply the law, and to come to a conclusion.

Well, I’m different.

I’m different because feelings and emotions matter to me. And so my guitar playing and every other creative pursuit that I’ve ever enjoyed, whether it was photography or painting, you name it. It’s all about the emotions and the feelings. So I’m going to pay attention to those things. And if I’m in a courtroom in front of a judge, I’m going to use those emotions and feelings to tell your story. Because again, we make decisions based upon feelings and emotions, and who doesn’t love a good story?

And so, if I tell a story that’s just based on facts, I mean, where’s the draw to that? I’ve got to bring in some emotion, I’ve got to bring in some feeling. So that’s the type of lawyer that I am. That’s how I practice. My clients’ emotions and feelings are important. I use them to make a point, I use them to persuade your judge to see your side of things. And so I thought I would give you a glimpse into who I am as a person and how something like guitar playing really informs how I practice law and how I approach my clients’ situations and how I can help them best.

So I hope that you’ve enjoyed this. It’s a bit of a stretch for me for putting myself out there and my guitar playing out there. But I hope that you weren’t turned off by it. And I hope that you’ve enjoyed it. And if you hadn’t noticed, I’m wearing my Jimi Hendrix t-shirt today instead of a collared shirt and tie. Just another one of the things that makes me different from my fellow divorce colleagues.

Anyway, I’m A.J. Grossman, divorce lawyer with Leap Frog Divorce. If you’ve enjoyed this video, please like it and consider subscribing. I’m releasing new videos all the time. Thank you so much for watching, be well, and have a wonderful day.

Arthur J. Grossman J.D., LL.M., Esq

Arthur J. Grossman J.D., LL.M., Esq

AJ Grossman graduated at the top of his Florida law school class, has been trained in Collaborative Divorce, has a Master of Laws degree in Dispute Resolution, and is a Barrister member of the invite-only Central Florida Family Law Inn of Court. His aggressive advocacy on behalf of his clients provides hope and reassurance throughout challenging divorces.

CONTACT OUR FIRM

Sidebar Contact

By clicking SUBMIT you consent to receiving SMS messages.

Messages and Data rates may apply. Message frequency will vary.

Reply Help to get more assistance.

Reply Stop to Opt-out of messaging.

WE ARE HERE TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS

Speak with our Legal Team today about what is going on in your life.
Contact

Contact Us